Some of my views:
1.) relationships- People can be summed up as rare versus abundant. When you have less of something it tends to increase in value but when you have an abundance then it tends to be worth less and decrease. People are the same way and when this is so then people lose what made them worth anything due to the feeling of being worth less. When you are in a small group you have a better chance to shine versus a big group. Like a nice guy has a better chance in finding a nice lady in a small crowd but in a big crowd he becomes another face and seen as another jerk who treats girls bad like their ex's when in reality he isn't. That's life and this is simple logic.
Also I do think that if the person you are dating has lots of friends that could be potential love interests of the opposite sex, it's hard to take them seriously. However, that doesn't mean that one can't have friends of the opposite sex; It can complicate things though when one turns to their friend of the opposite sex rather than that person they're dating for advice, comfort, stories to share, and secrets to confide in. I'm sorry but that's not the right way to go about it, in fact that is a very immature and poor way to go about it; There should be a fine line about that. Men/Women, if you have any friends that are men/women and are dating someone, please look to your date rather than your best opposite sex friend because that will wear and tear a relationship. It's alright to show emotion, opinions, and truths but not intimate feelings of expressing a personal part of a relationship. That should be consulted with a councilor or your significant other.
A lot of people though, treat relationships with the wrong approach. They only want the good, the high, the positive experiences of it; Kind of like a drug. A lot of people don't realize it but they do in fact treat relationships like this. They make sexual attraction the underlying foundation which is wrong. Sex is sex. You can have sex without love and love without sex, it goes both ways. A loving relationship isn't based on how good the sex is or how physically attractive your partner is. People need to come clear about their intentions before actually trying to build something.
For the DECEIVERS AND CHEATERS OUT THERE! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHgFJEJgUrg
Disclaimer: NOT LOOKING FOR SEX! LOOKING FOR LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP! (just wanted to make that clear). I am pretty Straightedge, don't drink, smoke, do drugs, or casual sex. I like to wait for the one I love. =P Also I can't travel outside of Grove City I am in the process in selling my car to get a cheaper one and have to keep the mileage down.
What I would do on a first date varies on the individual I take interest in. We're all different so maybe one person might connect with me on one thing and another connects on an entirely different interest. I will just say that I am not the most wealthiest, in fact I am poor. I don't have the money to pay for anything fancy smancy but if you are interested in a goodhearted man and like the non-materialistic things in life then maybe you might have fun at a park, movie, steak and shake, hike, an event of some sort, concert (REO Speed Wagon), or even a picknick!
Background about me:
I come from a poor background, was adopted and then reunited with my biological mother in the early 90's, I have lost a lot of loved ones, I have great morals for where I came from which is hard and I make smart choices, I never cheated, and have only had 1 real relationship... END
I can't stand the women who claim they hate games then they play games... Sooooo pointless.
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIV0_oPaXlk) That song describes me.
Status: (Read all before assuming) Not all girls are the same but they all have the same three qualities which are hidden agendas, lead on more then what they want, self-centered; But they are different, just same three genetic traits. Now I don't want a "GIRL", I want a woman. A woman loses those genetic traits when she matures and isn't indecisive and insecure like a girl. A woman is a mature individual who is rational, goodhearted, intimate, and affectionate. Now for the relationship jumpers-
Put simply. Women have the upper hand when it comes to sexuality. They're designed that way so it's a power men don't have (well most don't anyway). So when it comes to girls who habitually jump from one guy to another, it's the easy route... for them. It isn't love, though plenty of women will try to justify that one by any means necessary. Realistically, they do it out of sense of insecurity, fear of being alone, or fear of taking the hard route and take the time to figure themselves out first. Because of this they end up repeating the same thing over and over. Why else would they keep jumping from relationship to relationship? Easy, cause theirs keep failing and therefore a sense of desperation developed. This sense of desperation stems from their need for attention, or need to be desired or noticed (which is also why a lot of women have SEVERE jealousy issues). Ever notice how a girl trash talks another girl for doing the same things she does? Yeah...... lame. Childishly lame.
All in all, the girls who jump from guy to guy lack a vital degree of emotional maturity, so until they develop that... they'll keep repeating the cycle.
It isn't just girls that do this though, men do it just as much, it's just easier for women because they don't have to work hard for sex at all. For them it's as easy as saying "Excuse me sir? Wanna have sex?" Majority of men will leap for it as vise versa not likely.
So to break it down, the habitual "jumpers" just want to feel good so they neglect personal development for "feeling good". It's a sign of weakness and not a girl worth trying to build something meaningful with. These types of girls are usually the ones who's primary concern is their looks too, so they screw themselves by embracing the image of being a hot piece of a** (yet openly claim to hate being valued as such) but yet they value themselves as such.
Those kinda girls... lack a vital degree of self respect and are more so the type that like to "blame" everyone else for their inability to get a clue. They're babies in women bodies, that's all and are usually selfish and go through life with the "me me me" mentality.
About Me:
Hi the name is Harry and I am 27 years old Single non-conformist originally from Ohio (still am at the moment) I am a non-smoker and I rarely drink as I hate anything that controls me other than my will. I also do not do drugs but have no problem with those who choose to do so. I am a straightedge kind of guy who doesn't judge anyone else for their past, just their hearts. I am laid back and very easy to talk with. I never get offended but love to debate in a civil manner with an open mind, mind you. I do not go to bars, I feel it is not the best of places to meet people or find dates (Again my opinion and preferences). I really have no where else to go so I rot inside of my room where I have barricaded myself at... I love MUSIC! I also am a Movie junkie! My favorite past time thing is to make comedy video's and music video. I might not be a pro but I sure love doing it. I also am a semi-artist, I hate my own art but what artist likes his/her own art?
What I'm Looking For
(Someone who doesn't have the "High school" mentality but mature enough to let me know what their thinking or feeling no matter how harsh it may be but knowing as two grown adults we can discuss things out even if it means ending a relationship and being friends. Key word "Communication")
The type of girls I like are the intellectual, non materialistic, creative, logical, morals, logically attractive to a degree, but most important has a great and clean personality. I have no kids and never been married. I have only ever had one serious girlfriend and dated 2 people after that. I am shy and don't ask woman out on dates so which is why I am 26 and have never had much experience in that field.
I am looking to find a serious relationship
I do have standards
I am a nice guy
I am 25 years old
I do have morals.
I very rarely drink
I don't smoke
I don't do drugs
I am intellectual
I do love in depth conversations.
Logical thinker
Humble
Honorable
Devoted
Passionate
Comedian
I have a big heart.
I try to stay in shape for my own health
Preferences:
I prefer someone who is also intellectual
Creative
Funny
Has Morals
Doesn't smoke
Doesn't do drugs
Willing to put forth 50/50 into a relationship.
Honest.
Humble.
Passionate
Some common interest with me.
Has to be a logical thinker and thinks a lot like myself lol.
Doesn't have to be successful or rich.
Tries to stay in shape for their own health
Movies: V for Vendetta, The Protector, Boondock Saints, TNMT movies, Avatar The last Airbender, Zeigeist, Office Space, Jack, Patch Adams, and more...
Music: Christian Rock (Skillet, TFK, Switchfoot, Spoken, Underoath, Pillar, Demon Hunter, and more), Alternative Rock ( Korn, Unloco, Earshot, DownZero, Disturb, Linkin Park), Metal (Fear Factory, Factory 81, Nothingface, Mudvayne, and more), Death Metal (Lamb Of God, Chimaria) , Industrial Rock (Covenant, Orgy, Circle of Dust, Godhead), Classical music (Beethoven, Bach, Handel), Reggae (Bob Marley), Classic Rock (AC/DC, Guns and Roses, Mega Death, Faith No More, Skid Row), Theater Music (Variety), Southern Rock (Black Label Society), Country but a select few, Underground Hip-Hop (Atmosphere, Jedi Mind Tricks, Ill Bill, El-P, Blue Print),
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(Warning)
I am not interested in women who have 54654654 guy friends. Is it a trust issue? No, it is my preference. Trust and respect in this country seem to be mistaken all the time and no one seems to know the difference. When your really wanting to commit and want something serious you grow up and set aside the opposite sex friends (Love potentials). I have learn that they only complicate things. I find it disrespectful to hang alone with a female even if it is quote and quote "hang out". I think that would be disrespectful to my partner whom I am trying to build something "serious with". Some people would say you have trust issue and should trust them to hang out alone. Well I would say to them then if it is a trust issue then maybe I can spend the night with my best opposite sex friend too. Then they would say "that's different?" I would say, How? Now it sounds like they have the trust issue because the same thing can happen if you hang out alone with an opposite sex friend as well as when spending the night with them. You can still cheat or be tempted with the same things when either hanging alone or spending the night, there is no difference. It is a matter of respect and respect is different than trust. If you don't agree I am not here to debate so please don't message me to argue. I am not saying that I am right and you are wrong but to me this is right for me. To each their own and I understand that. I just had the need to state this because I know a lot of women will say they have men friends more so then women because women are back stabbers. Truth is I think it goes both ways, there is no real bro code; A guy will screw another dudes girl if he has the chance. It's the world we live in; this is basic logic and common sense that 1+1=2. I will leave it at that. If you don't agree again, please don't message me and argue because I am done with mind games. I want something truly serious. If you disagree, well I am probably not for you obviously. I barely get messages on here anyhow. I am one of a kind as I am apparently told and I am very respectful. I just want the same thing, a respectful women with logic, reason, and very rational tendencies. I have morals, which a lot of people I have found out lately don't even know what the word means or is... Logic would say we as humans are tempted easily and will justify our lustful intentions by any means. Sugar coat our secret agendas so that they don't feel wrong and we all do wrong with much more ease. I have grown as a man to understand lust, arrogance, and lack of will power as a key sign to most failures to relationships. We let our lust act out where now people can't tell the difference between what love and lust is.
Love is something that requires time. Like for example:
If my significant other is dying and the only way to save her is to give one of my organs to her, but in return takes my life to save hers. That's love. Unconditional without question.
I also do not put my friends in front of my relationships. I am not going to be spending the rest of my days with my friends, but someone I love. Children do that and that isn't who I am. I want something serious and real. Now above I said I do not believe in opposite sex friends but I am not saying we can't talk to opposite genders. For example, as a couple we will become one and make friends together. If another women says, "Harry, will you hang with me." I say sure let me ask my girlfriend (If I have one) if she wants to hang out and if not let me see if I can get a group thing going. I use the group method so I am not thrown into temptation. My girlfriend may trust me but she shouldn't trust anyone else not in our circle. If that girl says, "No! I just want it to be me and you." I will then say no, that is disrespectful to my partner. Obviously that person has bad intentions but will justify it by any means that they don't.
Ever notice a guy post something on facebook and his dude responds to it and a random girl also responds, then the poster responds to the girl first and sometimes not even respond to the bro/dude/his guy friend. It's because the girl is a love interest not really a friend. I am a guy and so I know, just like the women who think that they're one of the guys just because they hangs with them more or acts like them. Women can be hanging one day and I hear this with my own ears and see with my own eyes from varies groups of guy friends and non friends... While she is hanging out with her guy friends they're all saying how shes one of the guys and like a brother to her. After she leaves those guys for whatever reasons to do something else they are all saying who's going to be the first to get in her pants. Don't believe me, look out side. What is the number 1 cause of relationship failures? Cheating or an opposite sex friend causes a scene or situation.
All I am saying this is my experience and if I get in a relationship I want good friends and a great girlfriend to hold me accountable for my actions. That makes a strong, healthy, and long relationship like our grandparents had. These are my thoughts on my biggest pet peeve..
To support this theory about why it is bad to have to many guy friends here is a College research video.
A college project for a statistical and psychological testing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA&feature=share
Like any typical individual, will defend a wrong cause when beneficiary interest is at stake.
I am old fashion, where if I am in a relationship I would never be alone with someone of the opposite sex unless in a group setting where I can be held accountable. People say, " well you should be able to trust you partner." That is true, but I should be able and she should be able to trust that I will make a smart choice. It is never smart to be alone with someone of the opposite sex, even if there are no said feelings there. All relationships start as just friends, and enough time alone with other friends can result in complications. Something that was bestowed upon me by my grandparents and it makes logical sense. We are not perfect as human beings so putting our flawed selves in a situation that could harm a good relationship is not "smart." Trust in making the right choices.
Sincerely,
Harry Flanagan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZBTyTWOZCM
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