By: Harry Flanagan
Date: Wednesday, February 24, 2010 at 3:16pm
Frequently asked questions:
*1.) Why do girls date immature guys?
A.) See the mind is that in which concludes the thoughts and responses of a bodily vessel. We make choices by experience or spontaneous actions. Some people do not think things through and just do it. Immaturity is based on how much seriousness you can take under a serious situation. immaturity isn't someone who acts dumb in a non-serious moment but a serious moment. You can be goofy and retarded and not be immature, it really depends on the individual/individuals who act not serious at a serious situation. So if woman chose an immature guy, maybe the real question is did they take their time to look over the guys actions over his looks? I like to say that physical attraction plays more of a role in a ladies choice in a guy rather than his active and intelligent being. So that is my opinion.
Now advise for a woman or a man to find a good partner.
A good partner is an open minded person or someone who can share your structure as a human being. We are all different in how we think so we need to consider the fact that we will always be different no matter the similarities.
1a.) Take time before choosing, if he/she likes you they will also take their time. If you rush something, it will ultimately fail (Trust me I am right) 1b.) Make sure they can be serious at a serious moment. note that they don't always have to be serious but only when the time is needed. 1c.) Do they respect your space as well as trust you? Key word is trust.
1d.) How to prevent yourself from cheating or themselves. When you are being tempted by another person think of your significant other with the opposite sex fooling around. This will irate you and remove yourself from the situation. Keep in mind we are only human so do your best to counter the humanly reactions. 1e.) Do not show any sign of distrust until they give you a reason. If you do the relationship will fail. I know it is easier said than done but you like them for who they were before you dated them so don't change them. You can only change bad habits that are negative on the persons health or life style in the long run.
These are my thoughts and in no way are they suggesting you to forcefully believe all that I say. they are merely just opinionated facts. =)
*2.) How to Understand the opposite gender?
2a.) For women out there who feel hopeless in finding a man and not a boy, how do you go about finding a man?
I try to find a woman by the way she presents her self. I obviously wont date a woman who has all guy friends because i can't take her serious. Those women in my view tend to say they can't find girls who are not girlie and yet I hear it so much from theses individuals. I think the reason a girl has so many guy friends is because if one relationship fails she has other options. I wont do that so I stick with just having guy friends and limit the amount of women I know in person. This keeps me from acting on my lust and prevents temptation. That way when a woman notices me she can take me serious and feel more secure in having me. This logically helps a relationship in the long run.
"Also I do think that if the person you are dating has lots of friends that could be potential love interests of the opposite sex, it's hard to take them seriously. However, that doesn't mean that one can't have friends of the opposite sex; It can complicate things though when one turns to their friend of the opposite sex rather than that person they're dating for advice, comfort, stories to share, and secrets to confide in. I'm sorry but that's not the right way to go about it, in fact that is a very immature and poor way to go about it; There should be a fine line about that. Men/Women, if you have any friends that are men/women and are dating someone, please look to your date rather than your best opposite sex friend because that will wear and tear a relationship. It's alright to show emotion, opinions, and truths but not intimate feelings of expressing a personal part of a relationship. That should be consulted with a councilor or your significant other. (Bonnie Noodle revised by H2K)"
*3.) Why do guys feel the need to boast when they're out with their guy friends?
I believe it is testosterone that flow through a man that makes him act tougher than he really needs to be. This chemical can be very controlling over the mind if you are weak willed. To notice a barbaric instinct you must come to terms with what you are. We are humans of a circle of life with chemicals within us that act on different emotions we may feel. Adrenalin is activated on excitement or fear, for example. Lust is another factor that also activates the testosterone in your body but sometimes a testosterone can be a good thing depending on the situation. Sometimes it drives men to invent things to impress women which helps mankind.
*4.) What do both gender's have in common with a virus? What differences do we have with a virus?
Like a virus that spreads and consumes all in its path, both genders share this characteristic. Me use to have a purpose as humans to benefit the world as other life forms do in some way or another but now we defied nature and took another course. Just like a virus it can change course and become more destructive. Now for the difference between a virus and both genders of homo sapiens is that we as humans have the will to change when we want as a virus simply acts on instinct or a process that we can surpass. (Opinion of H2K) (Sometimes the best way to comprehend our species is to understand others around us. We have more in common then what we think we do.)
*5.) Why does a relationship end quickly at random and there is no explanation for it?
"A lot of people though, treat relationships with the wrong approach. They only want the good, the high, the positive experiences of it; Kind of like a drug. A lot of people don't realize it but they do in fact treat relationships like this. They make sexual attraction the underlying foundation which is wrong. Sex is sex. You can have sex without love and love without sex, it goes both ways. A loving relationship isn't based on how good the sex is or how physically attractive your partner is. People need to come clear about their intentions before actually trying to build something.
Intentions and trust is a key factor. But at the same time morals and respect for one another is vital for a strong healthy relationship as well."
(Sinthetic3000 revised by H2K)
Comment by Joshua Sigloch: "I agree man. That is why there is suck a high divorce rate in the US. Is because so many people just treat relationships as a drug and it honestly could be scientifically explained like a drug, but instead of being addicted to the relationship your addicted to the hormones released when your in a relationship, or fling, or whatever.
I will have to admit sometimes it is fun to have a fling, but that is only if you are both under the same idea of it is just a fling and nothing serious. With that said you shouldn't have a fling with anyone that is actually looking for a serious relationship. It is just cruel to make someone believe one thing only to crush them emotionally when they find out that you were just playing around.
I myself have been in at least a few flings, but that was back when I was in junior high and high school so that is only natural. I have never once been in a real working relationship and I think that is only because I just haven't found that girl, but I have time. And as for the sex. I have never once relied on it to fix anything. Which explains why I'm still a virgin believe it or not. That is another thing I believe in. Sex isn't something that should be accepted as a recreational activity. I don't care who you are or what your life is like. It just shouldn't be. To many problems come from having sex just to have sex. Some of those are heart break, pregnancy, STD's and the list goes on. So relying on physical attraction alone will get you nothing, but ____ which to some people that is fine and honestly i wouldn't care if they thought that way as long as nobody got hurt because of those actions and ways of thinking."
*6.) Why are guys so jealous all the time?
A man is structured to hunt, protect, and to be territorial. This is a primitive instinct all men have and still persist today in the civilized world. Most men are laid back but when they feel that their losing territorial space they become threatened and will try to overcome whatever it is that disrupts their comfort-zone. Have you ever notice any guys in your life that would get up and look mean or seem nosy? This is part of that factor of primitive instinct, we do it because it is embedded in us.
They like to know if all of their surroundings are secured before they can become laid back (comfortable) again, this is a fact about us men; Also a key hint in why we may be the way that we are in relationships. We like to feel secure and know all is well through communications, secure doesn't mean in control but feel safe from competition. If we become threatened it is mostly due to the lack of communications and honesty between two individuals. Male mammals/animals of all forms react almost in the same mannerism it is a basic territorial instinct. Also proven that the majority of women prefer a dominant male. Doesn't mean men can't trust their women, simply means we need to communicate with one another. As long as the communication is good the trust can be no problem unless actions show otherwise.
I am the same way, when I do not communicate I become worried and threatened. I feel as if I am losing my territorial surroundings and like a lion I become aggressively panicked. I am not to aggressive but I do panic when I lose sight of what I have. That is why I am a very communicative individual, which is a good sign of a nice guy. I try to use my words to solve problems not my primitive aggression, using words is a part of being civil. Sometimes women don't see this and it can send bad vibes in the wrong context. I figure that I would lay out why most men act the way that they do in relationships. Majority of them have yet to control their primitive ways on the violent side but to change completely we wouldn't be men. I still have my territorial and primitive ways but that I believe is a huge part of being a male; To lose that we lose sight of what we are, the spirit becomes broken just like a dog.
(I am sure I can go more in depth but for now I have other priorities to attend too.)
Just like a relationship, sometimes just ending a relationship may be the easiest solution but often the wrong answer. Maybe the problem was you and you carried it into your next few relationships thinking it was all of them. Always be mindful of possibilities.
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